“I’m through accepting limits
’cause someone says they’re so
Some things I cannot change
But ’til I try I’ll never know”

The lyrics to “Defying Gravity” from the broadway play “Wicked” make me cry every time I hear them.  Raising three boys is challenging enough, but when our middle son was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder, life became that much more complicated.  As his mom I have to help him and our two other children understand who he is, and that his autism doesn’t have to limit him or us as a family.  My goal is to have them all grow up to be amazing people – each in their own special way, to have them “kiss me goodbye and defy gravity”.

And I will write about that here.


16 Responses to “Why defying gravity”

  1. fiona2107 Says:

    Perfectly put!

  2. So glad you’re writing!!! Defying gravity, indeed.

  3. CJ Says:

    I have three children, the middle with ADHD. You put it perfectly – defying gravity. It is a miracle everyday.


  4. Barbara Says:

    Defying gravity has meaning to me, too, as gravity is a major force in prescribing therapeutic exercise. Like that song very much, too.

    With a small bit of anxiety (about being turned-down) I would like to be listed on your blogroll-? Understandably, you might not choose to list a non-parent, and I decided a while back not to try to keep up a blogroll on my blog. (Talk about reading too many blogs!) Whatever you decide, I’ll be back to read more. Thanks!

  5. Saima Says:

    Just came across your blog and can’t tell you how much I love it. Thank you for this.

    1. akbutler Says:

      Wow! Thank you!

  6. Love the name of your blog. I’ve got three boys too (& one on the spectrum) and ever since I read a description of a boy as a ‘noise with dirt on it’ I always think of them as my noise & dirt! But…for my boy, it’s been hard to think too far into the future – not knowing what it will hold, sticking with the ‘take it day by day’ advice until recently when I decided I DO want to have dreams for him and to think of the future as a positive thing. I want him to defy gravity.

  7. Jennifer Says:

    I just came upon your blog, thank you!!! I too have 3 boys, and my middle son was just diagnosed with autism (he is almost 3). I will be following your blog from now on!

  8. Kathy Says:

    Found your blog through mamapedia, and I love your honest, heartfelt writing. Like many others who read your work, I have five boys – four in my house and one angel in Heaven. Although none are diagnosed as Autistic, two definitely have some characteristics that we are working with. It’s refreshing to read about what other families go through and how they cope with the everyday challenges of raising their children. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. I’m loving the music lyrics as well – very unique idea!

  9. RMcElligott Says:

    I just found your blog through Diary of a Mom. I truly love it. I am also a mom to three boys. My oldest as Asperger’s and Sensory Processing Disorder.
    Thank you for sharing. I love the song quote you posted about brothers.. Love.

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  11. That song gives me chills each and every time I listen. Love the blog and the clever title.

  12. rinoa127 Says:

    I love this song! Not to mention technically speaking it is an extremely hard song to sing. This seems very fitting as well, since I can’t imagine the daily struggles at times. You are strong mama!

    1. akbutler Says:

      It is a great song. And I’m lucky to have strong kids – superhero kids – to pick me up. Thank you!

  13. Nieves Says:

    I have 2 boys. The eldest was recently diagnosed with ASD, and the lyrics of “Defying Gravity” have been stuck in my head since then… I googled “defying gravity” and “autism” and found your blog.

    Thank you for putting into words what I have been feeling in my heart for the past weeks.

    Thank you.

    1. akbutler Says:

      Oh wow. I am glad you are here. I first heard this song right around the time when my middle son was diagnosed. It does hit home.
      Welcome to our community. ❤

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