On Thursday, I may have accidentally peeked at my Mother’s Day present from Howie.
Not on purpose. I was going through his backpack for his homework and found this:
After I wiped the tears away, I sent his teacher an email:
I just took a peek at the People magazine Mother’s Day project and I’m in tears. I’m curious – How much help did he need with that?
That’s a special gift. Thank you.
I don’t know why I needed to know how much help he needed. Maybe because I knew how hard these past few weeks have been. How putting pen to paper has been so challenging. I knew these were his words and our stories. But I just…I just had to ask.
She wrote back:
It was a process and very much a team effort, but I have to tell you…never have I seen him quite as motivated to write as when I mentioned it was for Mom-to thank her for all of the special things she does. :) You can definitely see the bond the two of you have. Glad you enjoyed it, but you shouldn’t have PEEKED!😉
And I started to cry again.
I’ll admit that in the past I might have been a little discouraged that he needed help with this. In the beginning, complete independence was the goal in my head. No supports. All on his own.
But on this special needs journey that I’ve been on, I’ve realized that this – this People Magazine Mother of the Year story – this is the Holy Grail.
Everything we – and he – has worked so hard on is wrapped up in this amazing Mother’s Day gift.
Teachers who will wait and work with him in his way with what he needs. Knowing that he can do the work but he needs the supports to succeed.
Presuming competence all the way.
His smile when he gave it to me this morning said it all.
“I love you, Momabom”, he told me this morning.
“I love you too, little man.”
I love all three of these incredible little men. Happy Mother’s Day to me.
“If you love somebody
Better tell them while they’re here ’cause
They just may run away from you
You’ll never know quite when, well
Then again it just depends on
How long of time is left for you
I’ve had the highest mountains
I’ve had the deepest rivers
You can have it all but life keeps moving
I take it in but don’t look down
‘Cause I’m on top of the world, ‘ay
I’m on top of the world, ‘ay
Waiting on this for a while now
Paying my dues to the dirt
I’ve been waiting to smile, ‘ay
Been holding it in for a while, ‘ay
Take you with me if I can
Been dreaming of this since a child
I’m on top of the world.” – On Top Of The World by Imagine Dragons