The question was easy to answer.
“What do you love about your child?”
The list is long, of course. Who doesn’t have a thousand things they love about their kid?
But number one? His smile.
It’s actually the number one thing I love about all my kids.
Gerry and Lewis have very similar smiles. Big grins with lots of teeth. And dimples. They both got my dimples.
Howie’s smile? It’s…different from his brothers. Like everything else about him.
No dimples. Not toothy.
But it’s a smile that just exudes pure happiness. It’s a smile that tells me the things he can’t say himself.
When his world is closing in on him, when he’s having a “crummy day“, the smile is gone. No smiles means we’re out of whack. No smiles mean his body is out of sorts. No smiles mean we need help. And a hug without a smile? Those are the hardest hugs of all.
But if I can make him smile? If I can hear that infectious giggle that comes from a tickle, or a silly joke, or the promise of “hugs that go on forever and never stop”…then I know we’re ok.
We’re back.
Howie has a smile that tells the whole world how he’s feeling.
And when I see that smile? It makes me smile too.
(This was written as a part of this week’s Special Needs Blog Hop. Join us as we talk about what we love most about our children).
———————————————————————————-
“Don’t know how I lived without you
‘Cause every time that I get around you
I see the best of me inside your eyes
You make me smile” – Smile by Uncle Kracker
November 4, 2010 at 9:18 am
“A hug without a smile.” You’re killing me here. But in a good way. 🙂
November 4, 2010 at 9:20 am
seriously. I wrote it and started to cry. I need more sleep.
November 4, 2010 at 3:37 pm
Yeah, that’s the line that got me, too.
November 4, 2010 at 10:17 am
Love this. Love our kiddos!!
November 4, 2010 at 10:23 am
That’s how I feel about my son. When he smiles, everything is alright.
November 4, 2010 at 11:19 am
aaaawwww, ‘a hug without a smile’ we have them here somedays and yes, they are hard. They are becoming less frequent though. Jen (SN bloghop)
November 4, 2010 at 11:59 am
It’s his smile and those beautiful cheeks and big round eyes!
November 4, 2010 at 12:08 pm
This is SO beautiful!! I can totally relate — I love tickling Ben just to see him smile as he pleads, “No daddy!”.
November 4, 2010 at 12:37 pm
Those big grins are definitely priceless.
November 4, 2010 at 12:41 pm
yup, what all the other commenters’ said! 🙂
November 4, 2010 at 1:53 pm
I love that you and I and so many others answered “His smile” today. We have some awesome kids here.
November 4, 2010 at 2:58 pm
the smiles are HEAVEN
November 4, 2010 at 3:15 pm
Hugs without smiles are hard. I can relate but when you get those smiles it makes everything right.
November 4, 2010 at 3:20 pm
This is so, so true!!! I also look for the smile with my son to figure out his mood. Keep your chin up hun. Tomorrow is another day! 🙂
November 4, 2010 at 5:32 pm
There must be something about the smiles of our kids that are extra-special!
November 4, 2010 at 6:08 pm
There’s something about those smiles that just fill the room with sunshine!
I’m over from Hopeful Parents. I actually wrote about my daughter’s smile for a post tomorrow and saw an old post of mine that talked about her first real smiles that were happy ones and not scared smiles. Those happy ones are the best!
November 4, 2010 at 7:30 pm
In tears at this gorgeous post
I love our kiddos
November 4, 2010 at 9:34 pm
Isn’t it intoxicating? That’s the one thing (among many) I love about my son too 🙂
There’s something about a pure and trusting smile that just melts your heart.
November 5, 2010 at 6:06 am
Alysia, you are so in tune with your boys…..yes, a hug without a smile is heart breaking……
A very though provoking post 🙂
November 5, 2010 at 2:07 pm
I feel the same way with my kids. In fact, lots of people actually comment on Danny’s smile, how it just lights up his face and is infectious. I love his exuberance!
November 5, 2010 at 5:22 pm
I so agree! When C loses his smile, I know something is really wrong. Happy kids!
November 7, 2010 at 1:52 pm
Ah…lovely post and lovely idea for a blog hop! My favourite thing about my WiiBoy (and I was thinking of this just today!) is his laugh. That really infectious/hyper one where he collapses from laughter!! It’s cute and catching!!
xx Jazzy
November 7, 2010 at 4:03 pm
Very lovely post. Thanks for joining in the special needs blog hop.
November 9, 2010 at 12:02 pm
what a beautiful post. Made me smile, laugh, and tear up.