I have a million and one things jumbling around in my head.
I want to write about them all. But I can’t seem to get them out. They are stilted fragments of mixed up blog posts stuck in all different parts of my brain.
So I needed something good. Something short. Something that made me smile.
Yesterday in Howie’s backpack, this came home:
There are so many things I love about this. Here’s a few:
1) He answered the question.
2) He answered it very literally. Because that’s him. How did you count them? I used my fingers. Of course.
3) His teacher did NOT mark it wrong. Because it’s not wrong. Was it the answer she expected? Nope. Is it right? Yup. This is what good teaching is. His teacher GETS him. She could have said that wasn’t correct. Instead, she prompted him with another question about it to help him get to the next level. It takes me back to my friend Stimey’s post Not Even Wrong. Good – GREAT – teachers respect how our kids think, give them credit for that, and then work with them to see it from another perspective.
4) I love how he spelled out “yoosd”. Phonetically it’s perfect. And another example to me of how tough our language is to learn – especially for literal, rule minded, pattern loving thinkers. Of which I have three in my house.
5) Howie’s handwriting. It’s better than my husband’s. This kid struggled with holding a pencil from the start. You’ve come a long way, baby.
6) My kid is doing math. And he’s writing. And he’s getting the concepts and generalizing them.
Ask me if I thought this would be possible for first grade…on second thought…don’t.
There are so many ups and downs on this parenting rollercoaster. So many times my heart breaks a little for my kid when I watch how hard he struggles just to be comfortable in his own skin. So many many sleepless nights for us all.
And then there’s this. The progress that happens in an environment tailored to celebrate the successes of my child and challenge him to think in different ways. The willingness to think outside of the box for my kid to help him think outside of the box.
That’s worth celebrating in a blog post today.
“I built a bridge across the stream my consciousness
It always seems to be a flowin’
But I don’t know which way my brain is goin’
Oh the rhymin’ and the timin’
Keeps the melodies inside me
And they’re comin’
Till I’m running out of air
Are you prepared to take a dive into the deep end of my head
Are you listening to a single word I’ve said
Ha La La La La
Listen closer to the words I say
Ha La La La La
I’m stickin’ to the wordplay” – Wordplay by Jason Mraz

October 10, 2012 at 1:24 pm
I love his answer…and I love this post. So happy for Howie! This reminds me of some of my oldest son’s answers to problems. He is a very literal thinker, too.
Progress is awesome.
October 10, 2012 at 1:52 pm
I love this? You make me want to do my own post about things like this that happen with my son. Is it bad to steal a blog post idea? I hope not.
October 10, 2012 at 2:59 pm
Steal away!! Please! (and it’s not stealing at all
) Can’t wait to read it!
October 10, 2012 at 1:53 pm
I meant … I love this! … not, I love this? lol
October 10, 2012 at 2:59 pm
I do that all.the.time.
October 10, 2012 at 1:58 pm
Yay! Love this.
October 10, 2012 at 2:03 pm
This is all kinds of awesome. <3
October 10, 2012 at 2:05 pm
Homeschooling has often been so hard, but one of the things I love the most is seeing answers just like this from my Aaron. I love that he has a great teacher that will grasp his perspective and go with it. His penmanship was the first thing I noticed, much better than my own. (also, I’m glad to know I’m not the only one that has a million blog posts unable to get from head to blog…)
October 10, 2012 at 2:49 pm
You got me thinking about how he spelled fingers. It DOES sound like there is a “g” in both syllables. But you don’t hear an “e” in the second syllable. This is truly well-thought out.
October 10, 2012 at 3:30 pm
Right?
October 10, 2012 at 3:07 pm
This is such a great post. And I’m so happy that your kiddo has a teacher that understands him. I love the things our guys come up with when answering questions like this. Jack tends to answer “how did you get this answer” questions with “my brain told me,” which is the best thing ever. I’m so glad you wrote this. Love seeing your guy in action.
October 10, 2012 at 3:30 pm
Thank you for showing me the way
October 10, 2012 at 3:29 pm
This is AWESOME for all the reasons you gave. I have to admit, I have no idea how I would answer that question if someone asked me. I think Howie’s answer was perfect!
October 10, 2012 at 3:45 pm
I love this! My son is very literal, too. Sometimes his teachers don’t understand his answers, but I always do and always appreciate them!
October 10, 2012 at 3:51 pm
I want to hug his teacher!
We went through this with my son as well. The teachers wouldn’t budge on the “right” answer, even though they finally understood that he did give a correct answer, just not the academically accepted one.
We still get literal answers over 10 years later. At least his tunnel vision teachers are gone now. (yippee!)
October 10, 2012 at 8:19 pm
It makes me worry a bit for the standardized tests coming up in a few years…but I can’t think about that now.
October 10, 2012 at 4:50 pm
It’s definitely worth celebrating. I LOVE how he answered and I especially LOVE that his teacher didn’t mark it wrong.
October 10, 2012 at 7:47 pm
Wow! He’s amazing
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October 11, 2012 at 8:43 am
Love, Love, Love!!! Lennnon’s teacher asked him last year what color block she was holding, it was white. He answered with “no color”. The teacher told me later in the day and she said, you know he is right, there is no color to it…
October 11, 2012 at 9:08 am
Love this!
October 11, 2012 at 12:37 pm
I love beating the “celebrate the little things” drum, but it doesn’t really apply here. This stuff is major. Very cool!
October 11, 2012 at 12:44 pm
You made me smile today. Deeply and with my heart. He’s going to get “there”…wherever that ends up being…in his own way, his own time. And I can’t wait to watch as he does it. xo
October 11, 2012 at 1:04 pm
I LOVE THIS!! Great job Howie!!!
These are the things that make us smile.
October 11, 2012 at 3:24 pm
Your kid is awesome! And I love that his teacher didn’t mark it wrong, like ours would have. And I’m so impressed with how well he’s writing.
October 11, 2012 at 5:37 pm
SO cool! Great teacher indeed! When my boys both started spelling I used to look at their words and be soooo confused. Then I started sounding the words out by how they were spelt and BINGO! Easy-peasy.
October 11, 2012 at 8:07 pm
This is awesome. He seems to write better than my 7yo. You can’t argue with his answer. It’s like how my 3 year old answers the When are you going to be 4 question. After he’s 3, of course!
October 11, 2012 at 8:15 pm
I love this. Congrats to Howie! So many achievements rolled into one. This really give me hope for Angel. Thanks for sharing.
October 11, 2012 at 9:39 pm
Love, love, LOVE THIS!!!
October 12, 2012 at 12:49 pm
Great post. So important to have teachers who understand the child.
Shakti
October 19, 2012 at 1:43 pm
Such a great moment. Sometimes you just need to cherish these. Makes up so much for other times.
October 21, 2012 at 5:04 pm
Answers like these are one of the many, MANY reasons I love working with ASD students. Way to go Howie.
November 13, 2012 at 7:05 pm
This is awesome. Totally made me smile