As you might have noticed, I don’t write much about my relationship with my husband. I share a lot here – maybe too much sometimes – but my goal is to write about my kids and my family as a whole. Of course, I write about what an amazing father and partner he is and I seriously have no idea how I’d get through the day without him in my corner. But my marriage itself is something I try to keep private, just between the two of us.
But…
Today is our ninth wedding anniversary.
And I feel compelled to say simply this:
When we scrambled to write our vows the morning of our wedding, I never realized how one phrase would continue to ring true for me. On that chilly October day, I told him that I loved how he “made me laugh when I wanted to cry.”
At the time I was talking about the loss of my father.
Now it’s about our daily struggles as a family.
A true partner knows just what to say when you need them to say it. To create perspective. To see the joy when all you can see is the pain. And loves you even on the days when you don’t love yourself. I am lucky enough to have that a million times over.
I know the statistics aren’t on our side. But I think the title of this post says it all.
“Anyway, I found out I’m nothing without you
Cuz we belong together now
Forever united here somehow
You got a piece of me
And honestly
My life would suck without you” – My Life Would Suck Without You by Kelly Clarkson
October 7, 2010 at 6:19 am
Congratulations!
For the anniversary and for the kind of love you have for one another.
October 7, 2010 at 6:37 am
Happy Anniversary. Love is living out those vows. Congratulations!
October 7, 2010 at 7:54 am
What a beautiful tribute.
Happy Anniversary
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October 7, 2010 at 7:57 am
congrats to 9 awesome, crazy, amazing years! a beautiful post indeed:)
October 7, 2010 at 8:07 am
Congrats and wishes for a lifetime more of annual celebration!
October 7, 2010 at 9:04 am
Happy Anniversary!!
October 7, 2010 at 9:12 am
Happy Anniversary!! Congratulations on 9 years, that is awesome!!
October 7, 2010 at 9:14 am
That’s so sweet! Happy Anniversary!
October 7, 2010 at 9:43 am
what a beautiful sentiment – it was a chilly day – Happy Anniversary to you both!
October 7, 2010 at 9:44 am
oops – forgot to say…remember the rainbow!
October 7, 2010 at 10:38 am
how could I forget a rainbow in the snow? thanks Mom!
October 7, 2010 at 10:38 am
thanks everyone!
October 7, 2010 at 10:53 am
Happy Anniversary! <3
October 7, 2010 at 12:08 pm
October 7, 2010 at 1:34 pm
i wonder if hallmark makes a card that says that. if not, they should.
happy anniversary!
October 7, 2010 at 2:03 pm
they definitely should! Then I might have coughed up the $2.95 for a card instead of telling Tim that this post was his anniversary gift
October 7, 2010 at 2:02 pm
This is so sweet.
Happy Anniversary to the both of you!!
October 7, 2010 at 2:02 pm
thanks everyone for the nice wishes!!
October 7, 2010 at 6:23 pm
Happy Anniversary! We just celebrated our 12th a few days ago. You said it perfectly – my life would suck without him.
October 8, 2010 at 10:41 am
happy anniversary to you too!
October 7, 2010 at 7:03 pm
Beautiful. Congrats!
October 8, 2010 at 12:44 pm
Happy anniversary!
October 8, 2010 at 5:18 pm
Congrats Alysia & Tim! Happy 9th.
We just had our 10th in May but people think we’ve been married much longer. We’re just comfortable together, and it’s such a blessing.
October 14, 2010 at 8:40 am
Yep, I can relate to all of this!! Yesterday was my 9th anniversary. It’s amazing how much we’ve had to draw on those vows, those promises, since Autism came into our life. It’s not easy, but it’s life.
Hopping by via the special needs blog hop!
October 19, 2010 at 10:55 pm
Congratulations on nine wonderful and beautiful years together. My life would suck without you. Now that is a great wedding song.
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